Dayouth: the Anti-Qawwam

Someone asked me to talk about men who are the youth. I think we all know what it means. It refers to men who have no sense of about their wives, daughters, sisters, mothers, the women in their family. Now the issue is usually discussed as a way to incite disgust and contempt for ultra liberal Muslim men who appear on social media with their wives who are wearing improper hijab or no hijab at all. Men who basically are using their wives as marketing tools to increase their Internet popularity.

And the topic is brought up primarily to create a sense that the masculinity of Muslim men is eroding and that Muslim women are running shamelessly amok. There's something about the dynamics of social media that make us just warp our sense of proportion and perspective when we see something online. Anything that someone captures with their smartphone camera and uploads to the Internet suddenly becomes to us as if it is representative of broader society, which is incorrect and misleading. So are the Muslim men in these kinds of social media posts the youth? I don't think anyone would disagree with that.

Many Muslims would make an even more drastic judgment about them that their lack of is so profound, it's questionable whether or not they're even heterosexual because they have such a fundamental disregard for the value and honor of their own wives. But you cannot fairly apply the term to any and every man who, for example, allows his wife to work, to go to school, to participate on the Internet, or to exercise as some Muslims in the manosphere do. As long as she is adhering to what is required of her to appear in public, no one can say anything against her qawam. So now those are the the youth among liberals. But you have the youth among the red pillars in Tomasi'in too.

It just takes a different form. Essentially, a the youth is the opposite of a qawam. It's a man who rejects qawama, and the red pill philosophy largely objects to male responsibility. They literally have a saying, she's not yours. It's just your turn, which is about as the youth as you can get.

They believe in treating women as objects, as disposable, as essentially just devices for sexual gratification, and they discourage women from ever aspiring to be anything more than that. Their ideology wants women to be vulnerable to predatory men. They want them to be as helpless and as devalued as possible. Domination and degradation are their version of, is not at all what it means in Islam, and it is thinking. Now again, there is no epidemic of men in our ummah, whether or liberal.

Most Muslim men are have are masculine, and are responsible husbands and fathers. Anyone who tries to imply otherwise is being recklessly alarmist and enormously disrespectful to both the men and women of our ummah.