the Talaq Option

I just wanna say something about divorce. So does the bird. Brother Mahdi Tajani was talking about how you should not encourage men to marry divorced women because that will make married women divorce more easily. Well, look. If a woman is that easy for her to divorce her husband, why keep her?

Divorces happened among the Sahaba. We know that. Some of the best of the Sahaba, like Abdullah bin Umar, they had divorces. It's an option. If you have a wife for example, if you have a wife who just doesn't listen to you, she doesn't do what you say, she won't follow your instructions, she's just disobedient and rebellious and whatever.

Okay. Follow the prophetic example. Give her the choice just like gave a choice to all of the. This is the way things are. This is what I offer you.

This is what life with me is like. This is the way it's going to be. You're either on board or you're not on board. And if you're not on board, then you're free to go. I don't need my life to be about trying to continuously force you to do what I say, and you don't need your life to be about me continuously forcing you to do what I say.

You think I'm unfair. I think I'm reasonable. We're not seeing eye to eye. You're free to go. The family will talk to her and say, are you out of your mind?

Do you know what it's like out there for divorced women? Only what, like 30%, I think, or so, or less than that of Muslim women who get divorced, re married. So it's not easy. Rather than trying to impose your will and force her, just say this is the way it is in my home. If you want to stay in my home, then you have to comply with this.

But I cannot be responsible for you if you're not going to do what I say. If you don't wanna comply with this that bad, on your way. You don't have to oppress and tyrannize even if in your mind, in your understanding, you're not being oppressive. But either way, this is what you want in your home. So you need someone who will comply with that.

And if she cannot, you don't want her to feel that she's being hard done by and that she's being treated unfairly, then let her go out in the world and find her own way.