The Polygyny Issue

One of the things that the or really Muslim men generally like to talk about is polygyny. Polygyny. Polygyny. I don't even know how you're supposed to say it. Multiple wives.

They want they always wanna talk about this. How can I get one? How can I get my wife to agree to it? What are the tricks, you know, for a successful polygamous marriage? On and on.

And I mean, wait for the Tomasin to talk about it, it's particularly funny because, I mean, you say that women are a depreciating asset. Why do you wanna double your investment, triple your investment, quadruple your investment in depreciating assets? I mean, come on. They're so full of it. But, like, for for men generally, what I would say honestly is, why are you even talking about this?

You're not gonna get another wife. It's not gonna happen. But for most men, this is like a conversation about, you know, along the lines of what you would do if you won a million dollars or if you just stumbled across the million dollars. It's a fantasy scenario because it's not gonna happen. In real life, it's not gonna happen.

And in real life, you probably don't really want it to happen. It's a fantasy because you think it's like winning a million dollars, but it's not. It's like getting a second job. It's like getting a second, third, fourth job. It's not what you think.

And even in countries where it's allowed, where it's sanctioned by the government and you can get married married legally through the Islamic court system in Muslim countries, a tiny fraction of the population practices plagiomy. Tiny fraction. They're allowed to do it, but they don't do it. It's a lot of work, brothers. And just by talking about something that is most likely never going to come to pass, you're creating problems in your marriage probably, and insecurity in your wife and all of this for no reason because it's not gonna happen.

Like, you wanna talk about it because you want to affirm that you have the right to do it. Yeah. Yeah. You've got the right. Sure.

Sure. You've got the right. Of course. So what? For most men, it's not a good idea.

For most men who try it, it doesn't work out. You're welcome to try it if they're you know, if it turns out that there isn't a shortage of brides and it's not incredibly difficult to get married. I mean, again, this this gets me. Like, decide. Is it really, really difficult to get married these days or it's so easy that you can start thinking about a second, a third, a fourth?

I don't know. But I'm not really talking about this issue, and I'm not really gonna talk about this issue because it's like a nonissue. It barely exists in the Muslim world. It's something that you're allowed to do, and even in the countries where you are allowed to do it, almost nobody does it. So I don't really see that it's a relevant topic to discuss.

It's clickbaity. It can bring people because they wanna talk about it. Practically speaking, almost nobody does it and almost nobody will do it. So if you're the type of person who's going to do it and who or who is doing it or whatever, you're a unique case. You and your wives are a unique case, and Allah bless you and make your lives happy.

And you don't need any advice from anybody about how to do it because you're already doing it. Everybody else, there's nothing really to talk about. So I appreciate the questions. I've gotten some questions about it. I don't think it's really a relevant topic for the overwhelming majority of Muslim men, to be honest.