It s irresponsible to blame women for being irresponsible,

The golden thread that runs through almost everything that a woman says or does is the avoidance of self responsibility. Her shortcomings become your character flaws. If her behavior, moods, overall emotional stability are too erratic for you to trust her or invest any serious feelings in her, then you are emotionally unavailable. And that unavailability is never put in the context of her behavior. If she tends to be inconsistent in her plans, frequently changes her beliefs and opinions, or just sort of acts in an impulsive manner driven by momentary motivations, that becomes the accusation that you don't take her seriously.

There's never the consideration that perhaps she doesn't deserve to be taken seriously or has not earned your emotional confidence. But you see, women are the protected sex. They're served and taken care of and have no real reason to take responsibility for themselves. It isn't something that they ever have to practice, and they're usually insulated from the consequences of that by men. So why would you expect her to hold herself accountable?

Our whole approach to women is to want to insulate them from consequences, to create a pleasant little bubble for them that can never be penetrated by the harsh realities of life. That's what we want to build for our daughters. That's what we try to secure for our wives. You can't really get angry or frustrated when she develops a personality of someone who lives in a bubble. She has been provided a world in which very little self reflection, self criticism, or self improvement are required for survival.

That's not our world, but we don't want them to live in that world. It's not pleasant. Women acting up and blaming men for anything and everything that upsets them is not new. Expecting men to fix everything that bothers them isn't new either. Projecting responsibility on men for their own inadequacies is absolutely par for the course.

It's an entitlement that we bestow on women because we want them to exist in that kind of world. So don't expect her to be like you, to think like you, to take responsibility like you, or to even understand how spoiled she might be sometimes. It's all she's ever known. And if you're being a wam, it's all she ever will know. And that's as it should be.