Finding a spouse is as easy or as difficult as you make it

Assalamu alaikum. There's three things that it's almost impossible to be for any length of time. Muslim, single, and an attendee of the masjid. If you're a regular attendee at the masjid, they know you there, you're involved in the Muslim community, you have to struggle to stay single. The religious brothers that you know are married.

So, I mean, be honest with yourself, brothers and sisters. If you're not getting married, just because you're not serious. You're not serious in your deen. You're not serious in your life. You're not serious about marriage.

That's it. You have more ways to meet a potential spouse than Muslims ever had in the past. You've got app after app after app, website after website after website, and plus you've got all of these other social media apps that aren't supposed to be matchmaking apps, but you all use them like that. The Islamic way of of of approaching this issue doesn't work for you because you don't fit with it, because you're not fitting into the overall lifestyle in which the Islamic approach works. You wanna approach things in a western non Muslim type of a way.

And so you are experiencing the same type of failure and chaos and frustration that the non Muslims deal with. It's not that you can't find someone for marriage, it's that your concept of marriage is preventing you from getting married. This is gonna sound strange to you. Don't take marriage so personally. Don't take marriage so personally.

It doesn't have to be an exact fit. If you're taking your your dean seriously, if you're taking your life seriously, then you can get along with almost anybody. And she can get along with almost anybody if she's the same way. Don't make it so complicated. You're overcomplicating it.

I mean, how is it possible that on all of these alpha male red pill Muslim YouTuber sites, you've got two mainstay topics. One of them is it is impossible to find a wife because girls never wanna get married, and the other one is about polygyny. How is it possible that one brother is talking about trying to get a second and a third and a fourth wife while other brothers can't even find one? And you have to admit to yourself, acknowledge the fact, Yani. Tell the truth.

You're making it difficult because you don't want to follow the Sunnah. You don't wanna follow the Islamic way because you kinda like the drama. You kinda like the game playing. You're not ready to settle down, both of you, the boy and the girl. Because if you were serious, it really isn't that hard.

Once you have just decided that, yes, this is what I wanna do, I am serious about getting married, it it can happen within days.