Why are we advising single Muslims like they're Non-Muslims?

I need to address something, which is kind of runs through the entire, you know, red pill Muslim manosphere community. Why are we acting like we don't have a system in Islam for these for these issues? Why are we acting like we don't have rules in place and measures in place and a system in place for dealing with relationship type issues, particularly marriage? But why do we act like this? I mean, there there's so many things out there, like how to spot red flags, how to vet sisters.

Probably, there's one out there for how to vet brothers. Why are we acting like this is okay, like we're giving Muslim dating advice, but we're calling it marriage advice? Because that's not how we do things. It's not a situation of, you know, boy meets girl, and then they have to work it out between them. She's got a father.

He's got a father. There's an imam. There's a community. There's relatives. We have a system here.

Why are we acting like everybody's on their own to just try and figure out whether this sister is good or that brother is bad? You know? Or that brother is good and that sister is bad. No one is on their own. No one is on their own.

Because even if you don't even if you're a sister and you don't have a wali, if your father's died has died, you don't have any uncles, you don't have any brothers, whatever, there's the imam. Alhamdulillah, we have a system in place. You don't have to vet brothers. And brothers, you don't have to vet sisters. You've got a mama.

Right? I mean, you've got a mama. You've got a baba. You've got sisters, maybe. You've got brothers.

You can find out about her family. We have a system. It's not just we're not hooking up. Right? I mean, why are we acting like that's what we're doing?

And so we we have to arm brothers with how to spot red flags. The red flag is that you're talking to her in the first place and not to her. That's a red flag from you and from her. So if if there's a girl that you're talking to directly and she doesn't tell you don't talk to me, talk to my. Talk to my.

Red flag. Right? I mean, I don't understand this. We're we're we're it's like we wanna give the same advice that Western red pill people are giving Western men, non Muslim men, Kufar. That advice doesn't fly with Muslims.

Because if Muslims are having those kind of problems, those aren't the solutions. The solution isn't, well, you need to learn how to spot the red flags, brother. You need to learn how to date better. You need to get back to Islam. You need to get back to our system.

It's there for a reason. It's there for your protection and her protection.