the Sophistry of the Tomassiyeen

Muslims online who subscribe to the red pill menhaj, let's call them the Tomasiin, claim that Muslim and non Muslim women are not different. They say that studies about the behavior of non Muslim women apply to Muslim women as well, just the same. They compare to actual medical studies about say, the harmful effects of cigarette smoking on the body saying that if you've proven that cigarette smoking is bad for non Muslims, you don't have to then prove that it's also harmful for Muslims because Muslims also have human bodies. This is sheer sophistry. First of all, it's an attempt to elevate red pill bias to the level of actual scientific research.

And secondly, because it elevates red pill interpretations of reality to the level of insights into universal human nature. Rolo Tomasi is not a scientist. He's just a guy who resents being a man. Look, what people find attractive, men or women, varies from culture to culture and across time and it largely just reflects what that culture values at that time. There is nothing universal about standards of attractiveness.

It is determined by what a culture values. So it's not only inaccurate but quite insulting and disparaging to Islam itself to say that Muslim and non Muslim women value the same things in a man. I doubt that most of the women on OkCupid who were looking for dates had in their criteria, I want a man who can help me reach Jannah. If you believe that Muslim women and non Muslim women want the same thing and value the same things in a man, you are tacitly saying that Islam has failed to have any effect on women's values and character, and thus that Rasulullah failed. So I would be very careful about making such statements.

But yet again, even their conclusions about non Muslim women are wrong. They continuously refer to the fact that statistics from websites like OkCupid reveal that women generally find most of the men on those platforms unattractive. And then they just jump to the point of saying that that means women have unrealistic standards and are unfairly excluding average men from consideration. Except it's not true. According to data from the same site, data which the Tomasihin don't want to acknowledge, the way women ranked a man's attractiveness had little or nothing to do with whether or not they would approach him for a relationship.

More than half of the men that women approached on OkCupid were men who they ranked as below average attractiveness. And even men who they ranked as having zero attractiveness still got 11% of the messages. Men on the other hand ranked women on the platform 50% attractive, 50% unattractive. But they overwhelmingly only contacted women who they found attractive. 66% of the men exclusively messaged and contact and approached the top 33% of women according to their attractiveness regardless of how attractive they were themselves.

So who's hypergamous now? So you can see what's going on here. Because men are only interested in contacting the women whom they find the most attractive, they assume that women are doing the same thing. So that when a woman ranks a man as average or below average in attractiveness, they think that means she's not open to considering him for a relationship but it's not the case. A woman can judge a man as average or below average in attractiveness and still be open to a relationship with him.

That's literally what the statistics actually show is happening. I mean the reality is the exact opposite of what the Tomasiene claim it is. It's embarrassing to call this a study of human behavior. It is sophistry. It is willful misrepresentation, misinterpretation, and manipulation.

Muslim red pillars are becoming a sect telling brothers that they are either red pill or blue pill. I mean, you're imposing your on fellow Muslims. You're losing the plot. This is misguidance. Pure and simple.