What's love got to do with it?

The content of this video is gonna sound very strange to Western ears or to Muslims who live in the West who have become very accustomed to the Western way of looking at things in terms of relationships between men and women, marriage. There was a man who was considering divorcing his wife in the time of Omar bin Al Khattab, and Omar asked him why. Why do you wanna divorce your wife? The man said, I don't love her anymore. And Omar said, must every home be built upon love?

What about honorable treatment and appreciation? So what if you don't love your wife? What if you don't love your husband? The default Islamic position on that is so what? Who said you have to?

That's not a stipulation in the contract. To love till death do your part. Love is not in the contract. It's not part of the aqad. The first that we have in Islam between Thabit and Jamila, she was deeply unattracted to Thabit.

She had no problem with his character in Islam, but she didn't love him. Was that a reason for the divorce? No. Was her unattraction to Sabbat a reason for divorce? No.

The reason that the divorce was given was because she feared that because of her disinclination towards Thabet and her revulsion about him, that she would not be able to fulfill her duties towards him, that she would be unjust. For that reason, the divorce was granted. If you don't love your husband, that doesn't prevent you from dealing with them kindly. That doesn't prevent you from dealing with them justly. That doesn't prevent you from fulfilling your duties to them.

Let's say you don't love your spouse and you want a divorce because you're not able to live with someone that you love. If you get a divorce, are you going to be living with someone you love? No. You'll be living with no one. If you're living with someone that you don't love, but you're living with someone who fulfills their duties to you, who fulfills their obligations to you, what are you complaining about?

Because you have been indoctrinated into this mindset about love and soulmates and all of this. This is not what a a home is built upon. This is not what a family is built upon. This is completely contradictory to what the West thinks. But believe it or not, that's the way the the the the human race has actually operated for most of our history, and it is the way that we operated in Islam.

You fulfill your duties as a husband. You fulfill your duties as a wife. There's love and mercy. Allah put between men and women. There is love and mercy.

That doesn't necessarily mean passion. That doesn't necessarily mean desire. That doesn't necessarily mean affection. If even if a man isn't in love with a woman, there's still compassion, there's still mercy, there's still some degree of tenderness. It may not manifest in a romantic way, but it manifests, and the same vice versa between the woman and the man.

So the stranger this sounds to you, the further you have to retrace your way back to the Islamic understanding about marriage. Marriage, having children, raising children, raising a family is more important than your feelings.