The West's Trivializing of Marriage and Intimacy

In the West, they have this romantic idea that love is is the only reason for marriage. And that the only marriage that's worthwhile is one that's a marriage of love. And whatever that means, whatever love means, whatever whatever Hollywood version of love you're talking about or thinking about. Mhmm. Romantic love and roses and flowers and whatever.

That's the only reason for marriage, and that's the only worthwhile marriage. Whereas, throughout almost the entirety of human history, that hasn't been the basis of marriage. And in your societies, where you are making that the basis of marriage, have the highest divorce rates in the world. The highest rates of fornication, highest rates of sexually transmitted diseases, infidelity, children born outside of wedlock, you know, broken families. You would think that you would you should reassess the your approach when you see the outcome of your approach.

But they're so brainwashed, they're so deluded, that until now, the outrageous failure of their system and their approach to life, the the just devastating, overwhelmingly catastrophic outcomes of their approach to life, they they still can't see. And they still think anyone else's approach to life is laughable. You know? Even including with marriage. Their approach to marriage obviously does not work.

You know? It obviously does not work. But they still but but but they think that any other approach to marriage is is backwards somehow. Look at the look at this brainwashing. Look at this.

How how delusional. Just like when, you know, when Omar bin Khattab someone someone asked Omar bin Khattab, you know, like, I I wanna I wanna divorce my wife. He asked him why. He said, because I don't love her. And he said, well, everyone's always about love.

What is all this about love? What what happened to, appreciation and and good treatment and and honorable treatment? What happened to that? These are also reasons. And these are much stronger reasons.

And then I and like I said, even you you you see the result of your saying that this is the the ultimate top priority, should be the ultimate top priority, and basis upon which you judge whether marriage is Successful. Good or not or successful or not. Yeah. And you have the worst rate of marriage. I I see I see a a problem in your formula.

When you when you base it on that on your on your idea of love, love is absent. Yeah. It it's absent. If it if it's not absent immediately, it will be absent very soon because these are fleeting emotions. Your your idea about love is is fleeting emotion.

Not something that's built over time and respect and appreciation, experience together, things that you endure, things that you go through, seeing each other's ups and downs. There's no way that love can exist. You can you can have infatuation on-site. You can have lust on-site. You can have all kinds of imaginary feelings about people on-site, but you can't have love.

That's a lie. You you love has to exist. Has to be has to be earned over time. Has to be cultivated over time and experience. There's no way that you can love someone that you don't know.

Yeah.

That's it. You can't there's no way that you can. You can the one that you will be loving is an imagination, is an accretion of your imagination. It's you who you you imagine them to be. And if you and if you're interacting with them in the early stages, and if if you're going about it in the western way, then both of you are playing a role.

Both of you are playing a

part Mhmm.

In your in your interactions. Yeah. In your You're trying to convince her that you're a certain kind of way, and she's trying to convince you that that she's a certain kind of way.

I mean, the act is is that the basis of legalizing sexual intimacy.

Right.

You know?

So Right.

That's the foundation.

Mhmm.

And and for us, it's a matter of

It's literally what means.

Yeah. And it's In

Arabic.

Yeah. Means.

Yeah. It's it's it's actually not even a particularly proper word for sexual intercourse. Mhmm. Yeah. And when you say this to a westerner or a non Muslim or even a Muslim who has been westernized, they think, you know, how belittling of marriage that is just about legalizing sex.

Well, that's because you have diminished how important that is, how serious that is. Yeah, how serious, the gravity of sexual intimacy. You have diminished the importance of that because you do it in the West like water, like nothing, like recreational. So you don't treat it like anything. So if if, you know, if you think that it's somehow belittling for us to say that that marriage in Islam is essentially the legalization of sexual intercourse, That's the that's basically what it is.

It's the contract that makes the sexual parts halal for each other, the man and the woman. If you think that's a small thing, then you you you really, really have your your understanding of the world upside down because the the West has convinced you that this the the the most important, the most serious, the most weighty matter and and interaction between a man and a woman, you think is like nothing. You think that that's a small thing. Mhmm. But it's massive.

Just just like why they think that the hud Yeah. For zina is just incredibly bad. Mhmm. Because you think that zina is nothing. You think it's a very small thing.

And even though you see the results in your society.

Yeah. And and this That's

subhanallah. Even though they can see the like I said, even though they can see the results of their approach to life, what a disaster it is, you still think you're right. Yeah. And everybody else is wrong even though everyone else is much happier and more stable than you.