Respect Yourself

Something needs to be said about an unspoken implication in the ayah something that women need to understand very very well. The irreducible implication of the ayah about the relative natures of men and women is that men have a rank above women in their power, in their capabilities, in their overall attributes and authority. Well, the unspoken and overlooked implication of this aya and this reality is that men are therefore always a dangerous presence for women. Any man with any woman. She is always in a position of relative weakness and should never delude herself into thinking otherwise.

Red pill Tomasin can talk derisively as much as they want about simps and blue pill betas, but never believe that any man is weak relative to you. If a man, if your husband does not assert his authority and allows you to exploit, mistreat, and disrespect him, know that that is exactly what is happening. He is allowing it. Even if he himself does not yet realize that he has the power to overrule you. Eventually, I guarantee you, he will realize it.

Every man's patience has an end and pushing him past the end of his patience usually turns ugly. This is just one of the reasons why it's generally unhealthy for a husband to not assert his authority throughout a marriage. The wife may be misled into thinking that he cannot assert his authority causing her to then behave without restraint which makes the ugly turn of events inevitable. The Arabic usage of the phrase respect yourself has a different connotation than its usage in English. In English, respect yourself usually means, you know, don't let anyone disrespect you, get your rights, and so on.

But in Arabic, can mean know your limits and do not overreach those limits thereby incurring consequences upon yourself that cause you forcibly to remember what your limits are. Yes. Husbands should be kind, tolerant, forgiving, patient, and all of these things, and we are. But we also always have the power to not be. The minimum degree of appreciation for this fact on the part of the wife should be for her to respect herself with regards to her limits vis a vis her husband.

And sisters, you need to carry this principle further and recognize that any man who is not your husband is inherently more dangerous to you than you could ever possibly imagine. And no one ensures and enforces your safety and security better than or other than your Ka'wam. Keep it in mind.