Don't complain about high mahr

So I've seen some brothers complaining online about, high mahr, you know, that they don't wanna pay this high mahr, why are these young girls asking so much money. And isn't that just, un Islamic and against the sunnah and all of that kind of stuff? Look, bro. I thought that we stopped talking about this over a thousand years ago when Omar ibn Al Khattab was saying the same thing, and he was corrected publicly by a woman who told him, okay. Is your statement about we're not supposed to charge that much for mahr better, or is the statement of Allah better when he said, In other words, you can give for a mahr like a mountain of gold.

So are you saying now that Allah has said that we can give him that much, and you're saying we can't give him that much, and that was supposed to end the argument. But until now, people are still saying that a woman can't ask that much money for a mahr. Well, she can ask whatever she wants. That's what Omar said afterwards when he came out and said, I was wrong. Let them charge whatever they want for a mahr.

Let them set the fee as high as they like. Doesn't mean you're gonna get it, but you can ask for it. There's no limit. And as for why a young girl I mean, because what the brothers are saying is that, you know, like, older women don't ask for as much as younger women. Well, you're not asking as much from an older woman as you're asking from a younger woman.

A younger woman, presumably, she's probably going to be expected to suspend her education and any pursuit of a career if she gets married, let's say, eighteen, nineteen, twenty, twenty one, twenty two, like this. Okay? That's the vital time for her to gain the resources for herself to be able to build a financial future of independence for herself. Now, she's sacrificing that in order to get married to you, then you better better compensate her for that because she doesn't wanna be left stranded if something happened to you or if the marriage doesn't work out and she's on her own and she ends up, you know, ten years down the line trying to start a career at 30 and trying to build her finances at the age of 30, 35, 40, whatever. She's gonna need that money.

So this is why they ask, and also it's not necessarily the girl who's even asking for the mahr. It's her wally. It's her family. So if you have a problem with women asking for a very large amount of money for the mahr, talk to her wally. And if it's out of your price range, move on.

It's very simple. Nothing to argue about, nothing to get upset about. Women have the right to ask for as much money as they want for the mahr. Maybe they'll get it, maybe they won't. But young women are giving up more for marriage than older women are.

Plus older women may already have their finances in order by that age. If they've decided to pursue a career and they're only getting married at 35, 40 like that, that's when people's finances start to stabilize if they've been pursuing a career for the last fifteen, twenty years. That's when they start to get the financial security, so she doesn't need it as much. But a young girl, she needs to prepare for her future, and that's what the is thinking when he sets the price that high.