Can Mothers Raise Real Men?

See, this is one of those things that people say as if it's a truism. You know? There's many things like this, by the way. This is one of those things that people say like it's a truism, but it only exists as a truism on the Internet online in a very particular sort of niche of ideological discourse. That women cannot raise boys to be real men.

That only men, only fathers can raise their boys to be masculine, to to be strong, to be responsible, and what have you. This is one of those things, one of those types of arguments, one of those Internet so called truisms, like I say, that is not reflected in any way whatsoever in in in real life. There's so many things like this. I mean I mean, basically, all of the Western online discourse and blathering about men and women and about relationships and so on. This is all stuff that only exists within a very closed quasi intellectual sort of ideological Internet cult.

You understand? No one bothers checking it against real world life experience, real world what what real people are like. It's like the narrative cult sort of carves out this vacuum on the Internet, and then they construct their own version of reality with their own sort of self reinforcing logic, their own rules of their own little game and what have you. And it bears no resemblance whatsoever to the world that real people live in. So can women raise their sons to be real men, masculine men with integrity and discipline and so forth?

I don't know. Was Malcolm X a real man? He was raised by his mother. Is there any Red Pill Podcaster bro, who's who's going around telling people that women can't raise boys to be men or any of them better men than Malcolm X? You're out here telling people that women cannot raise their sons to or teach their sons to be real men.

Meanwhile, you have better men than you who were raised by women. For us in Islam, we have a Quran and Sunnah. We have the history of the We have Nabi Musa, Moses He was raised by his mother. Was Musa a real man? Jesus He was raised by his mother.

Was he a real man? But Rasulullah himself was an orphan. His father died before he was born. The lion of Allah, he he his father died when he was about 10 years old. And then you've got Nabi Nuhr.

He he had a son who was raised by his father, a son raised by his father, and look what became of him. Well, look at the brothers of Nabi Yusuf They were raised by their father, Nabi Yatub, and they did objectively horrible things. So what are you talking about? No. This is just one of those weird Internet arguments.

And you have to completely set aside real world knowledge and real life experience and real history in order for it to even sound sensible at all. I mean, of course, they'll give you statistics, right, about how boys of single mothers or boys who were raised exclusively by their mothers without both parents in the household. They'll give you the statistics about how their rates of education, their rates of incarceration and mental health problems, behavioral problems, what have you. That these all tend to be worse than kids who were raised by both parents. And then they'll try to put that they'll they'll they'll put that down to the inadequacy of mothers, that they can't raise boys properly by themselves, inevitably those boys are gonna go astray.

This is their argument. Completely overlooking all of the other factors that correlate to single parenthood, specifically to mother led homes, like financial insecurity and poverty and so forth. No. If you remove all of the socioeconomic disadvantages, then you're gonna get different statistics. Single parent families, whether it's a mother or a father, have less income than two parent households where both parents are working, obviously.

They have less resources, they have less time, they have more stress, they have less ability to parent consistently. And yes, single parent families that were where the father is the parent, they do slightly better statistically than single parent families where the mother is the parent. But again, this is not a question of the parent being either the mother or the father, being a man or a woman, but this is based upon the fact that men generally have higher incomes than women. Do you understand? But no.

There's no significant difference statistically for sons who are raised by a single mother or sons who are raised by a single father. That's just a fact. This is just a very ignorant argument, honestly. Like I said, it completely ignores real life. Doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter if it's a mother or a father. Either one of them can raise a good man because you're not doing anything at the end of the day, raise a good human being. Do you understand me? Honesty, integrity, responsibility, discipline, morality, ethics, principles, decency, kindness, strength, fortitude, patience, and so forth. These are qualities of civilized people, of a civilized person.

If you instill those qualities and those attributes in your child, then they will manifest in them when they grow up as a good man or as a good woman. InshaAllah. Values and morality and character don't have a gender. Righteousness doesn't have a gender. No.

A girl who is taught these values will grow up to be a good woman, and a boy who is taught these values will grow up to be a good man, InshaAllah. Again, assuming that the the socioeconomic conditions in their childhood don't interfere with the ability of their parents or of their parent, whether it's a mother or or or a father, don't interfere from the the parents' ability to give them the care and the attention that they need. I mean, do you know how many strong and brave and responsible young men there are in Gaza who were raised by their mothers because the Zionists murdered their fathers? Don't be absurd. Or in Iraq or in Syria.

I mean, you talk about men used to go to war and die on the battlefield. Right? That's real masculine men. Well, who do you think raised their babies after that? So, I mean, if your concept of masculinity involves valiant self destruction on the battlefield, where fathers die on the battlefield and leave their sons to be raised by their widows.

I don't know how you think that's supposed to work. No. This is nonsense. Look, every boy becomes a man. This is the part that you're missing.

Masculinity, manhood, whatever you wanna call it, is not a social construct. Every boy will grow up to be a man. Period. And the values that you instill in that boy are gonna express themselves in his adulthood according to his manhood. Men and women are different.

Absolutely. Men and women are different, and their roles are different. But you don't have to teach a boy how to be a man. You just have to teach a boy how to be a good person. And then as a man, that goodness is gonna manifest in him in the way that goodness manifests in men.

That's all. The manhood part is not something you have to worry about because that boy is gonna grow up to be a man no matter what. Either way, you just have to worry about the goodness part, not the manhood part. Because, yes, men have distinct characteristics and women have distinct characteristics. That's true.

But the morality and the virtue and the character traits are the same. They just manifest differently in each gender. And that's just nature. And you don't have to worry about the nature part. You don't have to worry about what nature takes care of.

You have to worry about instilling the virtues, instilling the morals, instilling the principles, instilling the character traits. That's what you have to worry about. And that can be done by either a father or a mother. Do you understand? If you give your daughter, those virtues, then when she grows up, those virtues are gonna be woman shaped virtues.

And if you give those virtues to your son, when your son grows up, those virtues will be man shaped virtues, but the virtues are the same virtues. This is just like the nonsense about only this type or that type of man can can attract a wife. Right? He has to be rich. Has to be tall.

He has to be handsome, alpha, whatever. Meanwhile, just look around. Look at every couple that you see. Look at every couple that you know. Look at your family.

Look at your parents. Look at your grandparents and so forth. See, that's what I mean. This is Internet only ideology. Or or or saying that, women are all hypergamous, that women are all gold diggers and whatnot.

Like your mother was, or like her mother was, or any woman who's married to a working class man. No, this is observable nonsense. And you got people talking about decentering women from their life, decentering men from their life. No, what you should be decentering from your life is the Internet. You should be decentering the media, decentering your nefs, decentering your life from all this fitna and this discord.

Because the one thing that is true in all this discourse is that children do definitely benefit from having both parents who do center their lives around their families.