Discuss Our People Our Way

I think it's useful to have a discussion about relations between Muslim men and women, their relationships, about femininity, about masculinity, about marriage, and about matters relating to being qawam. Obviously, I think so. That's why I made this channel. But I would like to see this discussion less influenced by Western theories, Theories that were based on Western societies, that study Western societies using data about Western non Muslims, and focused on problems predominantly occurring in the West. We don't have to Islamize their concepts.

We shouldn't. Their concepts weren't derived from or for our societies, for our people, for our culture. Their concepts were not informed by our beliefs nor did they address the issues in our community. Take, for example, the divorce rate. The the divorce rate in The United States and in the West generally is roughly fifty percent.

A lot of red pill people, Muslim and non Muslim, like to talk about that, but it's only relevant to the non Muslims because that's the non Muslim divorce rate. The Muslim divorce rate is around thirty percent in the West, but that's three times higher than the highest divorce rate in the Muslim world. So, yes, there's a difference. Clearly, Muslims in the West are affected by that society. That's probably why there's such a stark difference in the statistics for divorce between inside and outside Dar al Islam.

But those figures also indicate that the solutions to these problems are going to be found in the approach of the Muslim world, not the West. We need to have a discussion not about non Muslim men and non Muslim women and how they behave and their relationships and their problems, but about us. And there is a huge difference. I understand that Muslims in the West are undoubtedly confronted by a lot of the same problems that are affecting non Muslims, but we're still not going to achieve any useful understanding with regards to our community and our people by subscribing to the theories that they developed about their people to deal with their problems. We have to understand something.

Atheist or not, secular or not, Christian theology permeates every fiber of the West's being, including their attitudes and their theories about men and women. That will impact what and how they research and how they interpret their data and the conclusions that they draw. Again, we're not talking about hard science. This is social science. This is social psychology.

It's theories about human behavior and the motivations of that behavior. It's all theory. There's no way for you to extract the kufr from how they arrive at their conclusions. And when you mix in things like the theory of evolution and democratic philosophies, it just gets murkier and murkier. There's no way that you can guarantee that they're coming from anything like an objective point of view.

And again, even if they're being objective, they are dealing with and addressing a different society and different people with different beliefs and different problems. So let's focus on what Allah has revealed in the Quran and the sunnah and what the realities are among the Muslims, the experiences and observations within our community, and consult the wisdom of our elders. Let's not just become resellers of Western theories. I don't wanna be able to know everything that you think by just reading the books that you've read. That makes you superfluous.

I would rather talk to an old religious Muslim man who's been married for forty years than listen to someone regurgitating red pill theories from a book about Kufar. I'm not saying that there's nothing worthwhile to be found in those books, but you'll have to do a lot of work to separate the wheat from the chaff. We need to be bringing original thought and insights that are based on and address our realities as Muslims, And no one can do that but us.